21 New Things: Get Bangs

Okay, when I originally wrote this goal, I meant like bangs with long layers. I didn’t expect I would get the urge to chop all my hair off. But after my third Lions Camp portrait in a row with the same long haircut, I decided a change was necessary. And a drastic one at that. I got attached to the idea of a pixie cut for several reasons:

  • Low maintenance
  • Unique
  • Requires some measure of daring

I didn’t want to be the kind of person that couldn’t take the plunge on something as non-permanent as hair, so cutting it all off became a sort of challenge to myself. I drew inspiration from Mia Farrow and Ginnifer Goodwin, who have face shapes similar to mine.

This video also made me bubbly with girly excitement about the chop.

I was really nervous when I got it cut. Most of the celebrities I’d seen who looked awesome in a pixie were wafer thin. I was afraid the cut wouldn’t look good on me. I was also afraid I’d look like a boy. Oddly enough though, once I sat down and the length came off, I was perfectly calm. By that point most of my hair was already gone (donated to Locks of Love), so I was committed. The build up is always more nerve-wracking than anything else.

After the cut was done I immediately loved it! It was short and carefree and perfect for the hot summer weather. I couldn’t stop running my hands over the the short fluffy hairs on the back of my head.

Quickly the new haircut euphoria faded. It didn’t look right at home. The part was weird. I woke up with cowlicks in the morning. It looked more like a mom cut than a cool twenty-something cut. One little bit kept poking my in the eyes. I felt totally unfeminine at times.

But then I learned how to style it. I got the part in the right place. I dyed my roots and relished that it only took a few ounces of color versus two whole bottles. I got used to not relying on my long hair to look like a girl. I realized that I didn’t need to have a panic attack every morning about looking like a girl because a little makeup would make me look more girly.

After some minor changes to the cut and having gotten used to it over a few months, I love it! It really puts a focus on my face and eyes. Halter tops and earrings look fabulous on me. It takes 5 minutes to style in the mornings and I always feel put together. Definite hair win!

My Own Brand of Unschooling

Lately I’ve been reading several books about unschooling and thinking about my stance on the matter. (Jury is still out on that one, but I’m definitely leaning in favor of it.) What I’ve mostly felt throughout the process is, “Damn. Wish I could just study whatever I wanted, whenever and however.” How lovely it would be to not worry about the rent or bills and just explore the world. Learn and live at my own pace. Carpe diem and all that jazz.

But as I read more about a typical week in an unschooler’s life, I realized my own pursuits weren’t too far off. Sure, I work and do responsible adult things, but I do have a lot of free time that I try to put to good use. Here’s what I have been doing as of late:

  • Listen to podcasts on history and women’s issues (How Stuff Works)
  • Read read read and read some more. Lately I’ve been reading about unschooling, organizing your library, choosing a career path, and lots of fiction.
  • Go to museums (Fernbank, High, Tellus, Zoo)
  • Get books from library and used books store
  • Keep a running list of what I’ve read and want to read so I always have a great book lined up
  • Learn Positive Discipline and child rearing skills through real experience nannying and babysitting
  • ATLOSCon! I attended talks about effective communication, sexual ethics, the virtue of pride, and art appreciation.
  • Have frequent discussions about wide variety of topics and issues (usually after a few glasses of wine)
  • Book clubs (Atlas Shrugged, Ender’s Game, and next The Art of Non-Fiction)
  • Movies and TV: They springboard me into other topics. For example: An Education/500 Days of Summer about relationships and first impressions, Battlestar Galactica about morality during war/extreme circumstances, John Adams about tough decisions during American Revolution, The Sound and Fury documentary about cochlear implant choices, and movies based on books lead me to originals.
  • I’m learning leadership and planning skills through working with ATLOS (trivia night, book club, ATLOSCon talks, website, book swap)
  • Graphic design principles and Adobe programs by working with Tori and doing my own independent work
  • Cooking: learning to how to put different flavors together, follow recipes, and do weekly meal plans
  • Budgeting with bills and income
And suddenly I feel much better about not being in college. Actually, I feel like I’ve learned more in the past year than any other time in my life. Cool!

I Doubted If I Should Ever Come Back

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

-Robert Frost

The typical interpretation of this poem is that the traveller took the road less traveled (perhaps one that was harder or less mainstream) and looking back, realized that was the best choice. It’s what I’ve always heard through all my years of public school poetry units. And then Kelly showed me a different interpretation. The traveller wasn’t glad he took the road less travelled: he lamented he couldn’t explore the other path, “knowing how way leads on to way.” What a totally different look at the poem I thought I had figured out in middle school!

That little seed of a thought grew as I was watching this scene from one of my favorite movies, “An Education”:

 

I began to think of past boyfriends and daydreams I had about our future. And then, like the speaker in the poem, felt a pang of sadness, knowing I would never experience any of those futures. It seems a bit silly, to miss a potentiality. Perhaps it’s an F thing. But now I’m remembering all the things I had hoped for with each boy: the places we would visit, the experiences we would share, the memories we would make. While I don’t actually want to take up with any of my former flames, I do ponder what might have been. I wonder what each one might have brought out of me and what we might have shared together. It’s a strange kind of nostalgia.

And now I think I’ll always have that connection when I see that poem.

Have you ever experienced nostalgia for what might have been? Have you ever had a moment that made you see a familiar piece of art in a new way?

My Future College Plans

After a year of being away from school, I’ve decided to go back next year. I’ve realized that I truly love American Sign Language and enjoy teaching it. But I won’t be able to teach more than basic level classes without a degree. I’m also interested in becoming fully fluent.

So I’ve decided to apply to Gallaudet University in DC, one of the few universities in the world geared for deaf students. I would study either ASL or Deaf Studies. Getting in as a hearing student is extremely difficult. Only 5% of those who apply are accepted, so I’ll have to really step up my game in the next year by attending more deaf events, working on my signing and receptive skills, volunteering, and maybe enrolling in another ASL class.

If I don’t get into Gallaudet, my backup is studying linguistics at Georgia State. You can take ASL as a foreign language. I might also be able to do a visiting semester at Gallaudet.

Both plans will get me where I want to go. Each has it’s pros and cons. I’m excited for this new path and I’ll be knee deep in college and scholarship applications this next year. Stay tuned for more updates; I plan to visit Gallaudet in the fall!

Links for a Happy Weekend!

A post from Kelly about what to do when you try to establish good communication with someone and they can’t or won’t reciprocate.

If you can’t ignore the annoying PB&J song dancing banana mascot, school him with a few moves of your own. (Did some further research on YouTube and I think this guy is hired by the Tampa Rays to portray various workers and just bust out dancing. Coolest job ever?)

An interesting method of teaching by turning a class into a game. It certainly works for my kids at homeschool co-op.

Cute drawing of movie twins.

As I’ve said before, I just love Red Velvet. I love the idea of collaborating with other creative minds to make a business that allows for so many forms of expression. I’m super interested in the setup of the business and how I can plug my own interests into that model. So it was a treat to read how the local shop is run.

What should you do today? Pull the lever on this fun activity generator for simple, but impressive tricks to try.

Good advice from Yes and Yes about some problems and solutions for non-niche blogs.

Have you heard about my new project to promote a youth culture in Objectivism? And do you want to contribute?

And here’s a nice sign song for you too!

Want to Guest Post on Awesome Sauce?

I’m making headway on setting up Awesome Sauce and have decided to start it as a group blog (thanks Rory for the suggestion!) and am working on building up a good base of posts to get the ball rolling with a steady pace. I certainly don’t have the time to write them all myself, so I’m opening it up to my readers to submit guest posts. I’m looking for posts on the following topics:

  • Books
  • Dating/sex
  • Life lessons
  • Fashion
  • Everyday ethics
  • Art
  • Travel
  • College/Post-grad life
  • Movies/TV
  • Running a book/campus club
  • Anecdotes related to any of the above
  • Something I forgot to write on this list but you think would fit with the general idea of Awesome Sauce

As a guest writer I will include a biography/introduction to you and your blog as well as much linkage to your website/blog. You can submit an old post from your blog or write a brand new one! I would also much appreciate it if you would link back to Awesome Sauce on your own blog.

To submit any posts, please email me at mirandabarzey(at) gmail (dot) com.

And please please please spread the word as much as you can. Write up a quick post on your blog. Mention in on Facebook/Twitter/Google Plus/Whatever. Email your campus/community club. Talk it up to friends, especially those who are in our target audience (young adults interested in rational ideas). I want to make a lot of noise about this project and I’ll greatly appreciate any and all help given.

Online Dating Adventures

Every time I hear about online dating sites, I confess I have a certain connotation connected with it. Awkwardness. Contrived. Desperate. I think to myself, “Internet dating is for weirdos who can’t meet people the real way. Like in real life.”

But really, I am the last person to have any negative judgements about online dating. I’ve met a good number of boys through the internet (Facebook, Twitter, blogs) and my whole life in Atlanta is a direct consequence of reading Kelly and Jenn’s blogs. Not to mention I have lots of online friendships with people that I’ve never met the real way.

Realizing all this, I decided to get over myself and try a dating website. The pickings are slim in the Atlanta Objectivist scene and frankly I need to expand my social network. I’ve never done the typical dating thing where I meet a boy and get to know him by going out and doing things. Often I am already friends with the person and just dive right in to a relationship.

It’s a bit nerve-wracking. What if the photos look way better than the person in real life? What if things are totally weird? What do I say if it’s going bad? What if I’m really into him and he’s definitely not? I’m pretty sure I can use my adult super powers to navigate through these potential awkward situations, but it is a bit scary to try a big new thing.

On a more positive note, browsing through a dating site is a lot like shopping for an apartment online. Bouncing back and forth between match.com and apartmentratings.com the similarities were clear. What amenities do I want? What part of town? How’s the view? Can I do short term? What must I absolutely have and what is just nice to have?

Unfortunately there are no online reviews for boys, so all I have to go on is profile information and my best judgement. Which can be tough given that most profiles start out, “I’m pretty laid back” continue with “I do these things that 99% of the population also does” and end “I’m just looking for a girl to chill with.” But then again, aren’t apartment complex overviews just as nondescript?

So far I’ve had a few people catch my interest, but nobody has blown me away. But that’s what real life dates are for right? We’ll see how those go. In the meantime, this song is playing in my head every time I log on.

Explaining Objectivism Briefly to Newbies

As I consider trying to expand my social circle outside the Atlanta Objectivists, I’ve been thinking lately about how to explain Objectivism to people who have never heard of Ayn Rand. How do I briefly summarize an entire philosophy? How do I give it full justice and not care people away with words like “selfish” and “egoistic” which carry lots of negative connotation?

Ayn Rand was once asked to explain her philosophy while standing on one foot. She gave the following:

  1. Metaphysics Objective Reality
  2. Epistemology Reason
  3. Ethics Self-interest
  4. Politics Capitalism

Clear. Concise. She goes on to say a bit more, which was helpful.

How do you approach it? What do you say to people about Objectivism when they have no knowledge of Ayn Rand or her ideas?

Lovely Weekend Links

And here ares some adorable ukulele songs to brighten up your weekend. :)

Awesome Sauce Magazine

So I’ve been kicking this idea around in my head for a while. As I’ve said before, I see a major gap in activism geared towards young people. There are tons of efforts geared towards reaching high school and college kids through academics (essay contests, free books to teachers, intellectual journals), but almost nothing out side of that. There’s few outlets to talk about rational ways to approach relationships, entertainment, and everyday ethics. Essentially there is no Objectivist youth culture.

I’d like to change that.

I want to start a magazine. An e-zine for now, but perhaps it can grow into more. I want to relate to young adults interested in rational ideas outside the classroom. I want to talk to them about books, movies, sex, art, college, parties, fashion, hobbies, music, jobs, practical ethics, and so on. I want to appeal to both newbies and those familiar with the philosophy. Basically I want to make Objectivist equivalent of Seventeen. (But accessible to guys too!) Here’s just a few article topics I have in mind:

  • How to expand your social network
  • Family relationships: Does the “blood is thicker than water” adage hold true?
  • Benevolent vs Malevolent universe premise info graphic
  • The value of personal style
  • How to interact with the police
  • College myths debunked: what to really expect at school
  • Adult Points column: How to’s about getting a credit card, finding an apartment, setting up utilities, car maintenance, talking to customer service, etc
  • Apply concepts from The Not So Big House series to your apartment/dorm room
  • How to eat paleo in a cafeteria
  • How to throw an awesome themed party

I’m very very excited about this project, but I can’t do it alone. What I really need to get this going is A) Objectivists willing to write content in exchange for credit and visibility and B) money donations to spend on stock photos, design elements, and maybe printing costs someday. If you are interested in getting involved with the project, please email me at mirandabarzey@gmail.com.

I’ll also need subscribers. Stay tuned for updates on the project and spread the word!